Reaching Heavenward

Pride

Pride is a dangerous thing. It can come in a blink of an eye and is as deadly as poison. If we aren’t carful one little drop of pride can spread and contaminate everything in its path. But why is pride such a bad thing? Well for starters, it makes it almost impossible to see our loved ones needs. If we only look inward, we will never look outward. For a relationship to flourish and grow there must be love, respect, communication, admiration, time, sacrifices, compassion, and the list go on. We live in a very self-centered society, where you need to be a strong independent person who cares so much about “loving ourselves” first, that we often take it too far. There is a big difference between being confident and being proud.

If there is pride within a marriage it will only lead to heart break if not dealt with properly. What happens in a relationship if the husband or the wife has a, “it’s all about me!” mentality? Let me just tell you it won’t work. I’ve had some very humbling experiences since I’ve been married.

Very early on in our marriage I was once annoyed with my husband because he wasn’t doing what I wanted to do. Did I communicate with my husband my plans so he would know? … of course not, he was just supposed to know exactly what I was thinking. This is how it works (or so I though)  I sat there stewing over how annoyed I was for a few minutes, when I heard the most direct and clear voice say to me, “It’s not about you” It was clear that this was a message from heaven and not my own thinking. Heavenly Father was communicating to me through the spirit that I needed to see my own pride. This was truly an awakening for me that I needed to look outward and not inward if I wanted to create a happy, healthy and lasting marriage. Our Savior Jesus Christ makes it possible for us to change our ways, to turn towards our spouse, and to overcome our pride.